Why You Get Unfriended On Facebook

By Tracey Dowdy

Christopher Sibona, a computer science PhD student at the University of Colorado, has bravely stepped in to address a grave social issue: why people get unfriended on Facebook.

Sibona has conducted several surveys focusing on why users choose to disconnect from “Friends” on Facebook. Recognizing that he’s gathering data from a narrow population, Sibona’s work has nevertheless produced interesting results.

I’ve conducted my own far less scientific and credentialed survey and, coupled with Sibona’s results, here are some of the reasons why individuals get unfriended:

1. You aren’t friends offline. Maybe you met once or twice; maybe you have mutual friends; maybe you were looking for a business connection and thought this would be a good lead. In any case, you aren’t friends in the real world so there’s no need to pretend in the virtual world.

2. You’re a creeper. You use Facebook to stalk family members and don’t know how to balance real life and life online. We’ve all done our share of stalking (who hasn’t checked to see who got fat or went bald since high school?) but these friends have raised it to a level that would dazzle Edward Snowden.

3. You’re never online. Maybe you joined Facebook because everyone else was doing it – we’ve all caved to a little peer pressure now and then – but somewhere along the line you lost interest. No problem. Happens to the best of us.

4. You’re a Debbie Downer. Your life isn’t filled with ups and downs, just downs and down even further, and whether because of geography or relationship you are not close enough for friends to be able to help beyond platitudes that may seem patronizing.

5. In the words of my friend Deb, “TOO MANY CATS.”

6. You post in a language other than English.

7. Your comments or posts are too often disparaging to individuals, organizations or groups you know your friend(s) support. Which leads us to number 8.

8. You consistently post status updates to provoke debate and argument. Religion, politics, human rights…you take a polarizing position and invite controversy. It’s your page and you are free to post on whatever topic you choose, but understand that many are not interested in online debate and will simply choose to walk away.

9. You take pieces of information that may be unrelated and piece them together to gossip. Even if what you’re repeating is true, it’s still gossip. And yes, even though we both know that if individuals don’t want their personal business discussed it shouldn’t be posted in the first place, until Facebook somehow develops a Breathalyzer or maturity meter, it’s up to us to be the better person.

10. The English language.
a. Your spelling and grammar are atrocious.
b. You post as if you’re texting or this is a newspaper ad and you pay per letter.
c. You are a grammar Nazi. Even if you’re right, no one likes the Nazis except other Nazis. Is that the company you want to keep?

As an interesting side note, Sibona has found that the individual who received the friend request is more likely to be the one to do the un-friending.

Tracey Dowdy is a freelance writer based just outside Toronto, ON. After years working for non-profits and charities, she now freelances and researches on subjects from family and education to pop culture and trends in technology.

Comments:

  1. hey there and thank you for your information – I have certainly picked up anything new
    from right here. I did however expertise some technical points using this website, as I experienced to reload the website a
    lot of times previous to I could get it to load correctly.
    I had been wondering if your hosting is OK? Not that I’m complaining, but sluggish loading
    instances times will often affect your placement in google and could damage your high-quality score
    if advertising and marketing with Adwords. Anyway I am adding this
    RSS to my email and can look out for a lot more of your respective
    interesting content. Ensure that you update this again soon.

  2. What’s up to all, how is everything, I think every
    one is getting more from this web page, and your views are good in support of new viewers.

  3. Hello! I know this is kinda off topic however I’d figured I’d ask.

    Would you be interested in exchanging links or maybe
    guest writing a blog article or vice-versa? My site goes over a lot
    of the same topics as yours and I think we could greatly benefit from each other.
    If you might be interested feel free to shoot me an email.
    I look forward to hearing from you! Awesome blog by the way!

  4. Undeniably believe that which you said. Your favorite justification seemed to be on the net the easiest thing to be aware of.

    I say to you, I certainly get annoyed while people think about worries that they plainly don’t know
    about. You managed to hit the nail upon the top as well
    as defined out the whole thing without having side-effects ,
    people could take a signal. Will probably be back to get more.
    Thanks

  5. Pretty section of content. I just stumbled upon your site and in accession capital to
    assert that I get actually enjoyed account your
    blog posts. Any way I will be subscribing to your augment and even I achievement you access consistently fast.

  6. I’m not that much of a internet reader to be honest but your sites really nice, keep it up!
    I’ll go ahead and bookmark your website to come back later.
    All the best

  7. You’re so awesome! I don’t suppose I’ve truly read anything like this before.
    So good to find another person with a few genuine thoughts on this topic.

    Seriously.. thanks for starting this up. This web site is one thing that’s needed on the internet, someone with a bit of originality!

  8. We are a group of volunteers and starting a new scheme in our community.
    Your web site offered us with valuable info to work on. You’ve done
    a formidable job and our whole community will be grateful to
    you.

  9. Hello, i think that i saw you visited my web site so i got here to return the choose?.I am trying to in finding things to improve my web site!I assume its good enough to use some of your ideas!!

  10. After exploring a handful of the blog articles on your
    website, I truly like your way of blogging. I book-marked it to
    my bookmark site list and will be checking back soon. Take a look
    at my website as well and let me know how you feel.

  11. Helpful information. Lucky me I found your site by chance, and I’m
    stunned why this twist of fate did not took place in advance!
    I bookmarked it.

  12. Hmm it looks like your site ate my first comment (it
    was super long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I submitted and
    say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog. I as well am
    an aspiring blog writer but I’m still new to everything.
    Do you have any recommendations for beginner blog writers?
    I’d genuinely appreciate it.

  13. Have you ever thought about writing an e-book or guest authoring
    on other sites? I have a blog based on the same information you discuss and would really like to have you
    share some stories/information. I know my subscribers would value your work.
    If you’re even remotely interested, feel free to send me an e-mail.

  14. Unquestionably believe that which you stated. Your favorite
    justification seemed to be on the web the easiest thing to
    be aware of. I say to you, I certainly get irked while people consider worries that they just do not
    know about. You managed to hit the nail upon the top and also defined out the whole
    thing without having side effect , people can take a
    signal. Will probably be back to get more. Thanks

  15. I love your blog.. very nice colors & theme.
    Did you design this website yourself or did you hire someone to do it for you?

    Plz reply as I’m looking to design my own blog and would like to
    know where u got this from. many thanks

  16. With havin so much written content do you ever run into any issues of plagorism or copyright
    infringement? My site has a lot of unique content I’ve
    either authored myself or outsourced but it appears a lot of it is popping it up
    all over the internet without my permission. Do you
    know any techniques to help protect against content from being ripped off?

    I’d truly appreciate it.

  17. Just want to say your article is as surprising. The clearness for your submit is simply spectacular and that i could assume you are knowledgeable in this subject.

    Well with your permission let me to take hold of your RSS feed
    to keep updated with drawing close post. Thank you
    1,000,000 and please continue the gratifying work.

  18. Hi, I do think this is an excellent web site.
    I stumbledupon it 😉 I’m going to revisit once again since i have book marked it.
    Money and freedom is the best way to change, may you be rich and continue to help other people.

  19. I blog often and I seriously appreciate your content.
    This great article has truly peaked my interest. I’m going to bookmark your site and keep checking for new information about once a
    week. I subscribed to your Feed too.

  20. Just want to say your article is as astonishing.
    The clarity in your post is simply spectacular
    and i could assume you are an expert on this subject. Fine with your permission allow me to grab your feed to keep
    up to date with forthcoming post. Thanks a million and please keep
    up the rewarding work.

  21. Hi would you mind letting me know which web host you’re working with?

    I’ve loaded your blog in 3 different browsers and I must say this blog loads a lot faster then most.
    Can you suggest a good hosting provider at a reasonable
    price? Kudos, I appreciate it!

  22. Right here is the perfect web site for anyone
    who wishes to find out about this topic. You realize
    so much its almost tough to argue with you (not that I actually will need to…HaHa).
    You definitely put a new spin on a subject which
    has been discussed for many years. Excellent stuff, just great!

  23. With havin so much written content do you ever run into any problems of plagorism or copyright infringement?
    My blog has a lot of exclusive content I’ve either authored myself or outsourced but it seems a lot
    of it is popping it up all over the internet without my permission. Do you know any methods to help stop
    content from being ripped off? I’d certainly appreciate it.

  24. It is appropriate time to make some plans for the future and it’s time to be happy.

    I’ve read this post and if I could I desire to suggest you few interesting things or
    tips. Perhaps you could write next articles referring to this article.
    I wish to read even more things about it!

  25. If you wish for to get a good deal from this piece of writing
    then you have to apply such methods to your won blog.

  26. I have been exploring for a little for any high quality articles or weblog
    posts in this sort of area . Exploring in Yahoo I eventually stumbled upon this website.

    Reading this info So i’m happy to convey
    that I have an incredibly excellent uncanny feeling I discovered just what I needed.
    I such a lot surely will make sure to do not omit this website and give it
    a glance on a continuing basis.

  27. It’s difficult to find experienced people in this particular subject, however, you seem like you
    know what you’re talking about! Thanks

  28. Hey! I know this is kinda off topic however I’d figured I’d ask.
    Would you be interested in exchanging links
    or maybe guest writing a blog post or vice-versa?
    My site addresses a lot of the same subjects as yours and I believe we could greatly benefit from each other.

    If you might be interested feel free to send me an email.

    I look forward to hearing from you! Superb blog by the way!

  29. Hello! I could have sworn I’ve visited this site
    before but after going through a few of the articles I
    realized it’s new to me. Regardless, I’m certainly pleased I stumbled upon it and I’ll be book-marking it and checking back often!

  30. Hey there would you mind stating which blog platform you’re working
    with? I’m planning to start my own blog in the near future but I’m having a
    hard time deciding between BlogEngine/Wordpress/B2evolution and Drupal.

    The reason I ask is because your layout seems different then most blogs and I’m looking for something completely
    unique. P.S Apologies for getting
    off-topic but I had to ask!

  31. Definitely believe that which you stated. Your favorite justification seemed to be
    on the web the easiest thing to be aware of. I say
    to you, I certainly get irked while people consider worries that they just don’t know about.
    You managed to hit the nail upon the top and also defined out the whole
    thing without having side-effects , people could take a signal.
    Will probably be back to get more. Thanks

  32. Hi there to every one, since I am truly eager of reading this weblog’s
    post to be updated regularly. It carries nice material.

  33. My spouse and I absolutely love your blog and find the majority
    of your post’s to be exactly I’m looking for. Do you offer guest writers to write
    content for you personally? I wouldn’t mind composing a post or elaborating on a few of the subjects you write in relation to here.
    Again, awesome weblog!

  34. Hmm it seems like your blog ate my first comment (it was
    extremely long) so I guess I’ll just sum it
    up what I had written and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog.
    I too am an aspiring blog blogger but I’m still new to the whole thing.
    Do you have any tips for first-time blog writers? I’d definitely appreciate it.

  35. Hello I am so glad I found your weblog, I really found you by accident, while I
    was looking on Aol for something else, Anyhow I am here now and would just like to say thank you for
    a remarkable post and a all round enjoyable blog (I
    also love the theme/design), I don’t have time to read it all at the minute but I have book-marked
    it and also included your RSS feeds, so when I have time I will be back to read more, Please do keep up the
    fantastic job.

  36. When someone writes an post he/she maintains the image of a user in his/her brain that how
    a user can know it. Thus that’s why this article is amazing.
    Thanks!

  37. Hello There. I discovered your weblog the usage of msn. This is an extremely well written article.
    I will make sure to bookmark it and return to
    learn more of your helpful information. Thank you for the post.
    I’ll definitely comeback.

  38. I have been surfing online more than 3 hours today, yet I never found any interesting article like yours.
    It’s pretty worth enough for me. Personally, if all website owners
    and bloggers made good content as you did, the net will
    be a lot more useful than ever before.

  39. Right here is the perfect website for everyone who wants
    to find out about this topic. You understand so much its almost tough to argue with you (not that I actually
    would want to…HaHa). You certainly put a brand new spin on a topic that
    has been written about for many years. Wonderful stuff, just wonderful!

  40. Does your website have a contact page? I’m
    having problems locating it but, I’d like to shoot you an email.
    I’ve got some recommendations for your blog you might be interested in hearing.
    Either way, great site and I look forward to seeing it improve over time.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *