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New Year’s Resolutions for Kids

This time of year, the mantra seems to be, “New year, new me.” The gym is crowded, grocery carts are full of produce after holiday indulgence, and our journals have at least a few consecutive days of entries. But, it’s not just adults that may want to hit the reset button and need a fresh start, perhaps your kids do too.

The weeks leading up to the holiday break can be a little chaotic, and if your child struggled with academics, organization, or even behaviors in 2018, reminding them the gift of a clean slate in 2019 can alleviate a significant amount of stress.

Here are a few tips:

Organization:

Are you even a parent if your child hasn’t handed you a permission slip/announced you’re supposed to send in three dozen cookies for a bake sale/informed you they need a crate of popsicle sticks and a kilo of uranium-235 for a project due that day? Create a routine where the first thing to happen when your child gets home is to empty that backpack. BeeVisual’s Choiceworks Calendar is a “full-featured, kid-friendly calendar app designed to help children learn concepts of time and help caregivers to keep them organized.” Because it’s picture based, even young children can take ownership of their schedule and learn to manage their time and responsibilities. Cozi consistently ranks at the top of lists of parent’s favorite apps for its user-friendly interface that puts all your family’s events and activities in one place and works across platforms and devices. ColorNote for Android and SoundNote for iOS make it easier for older kids to take notes, track what’s coming up, and share through SMS/MMS, email, Messenger, and social media.

Behavior:

Whether it’s teaching them to control their emotions or learn to put their dishes in the dishwasher, there’s an app for that. Chore Pad offers customizable chore charts allowing your child to earn stars and trophies for completed tasks. Busykid not only teaches chores, but it also teaches fiscal responsibility. You assign the duties, your kids complete them, and their allowance is direct-deposited each Friday. Sesame Street’s Breathe, Think, Do app is available for Android and iOS devices and teaches children self-regulating tools like deep breathing for stressful or frustrating situations. Headspace for Kids goes a little further, breaking things down into five themes: Calm, Focus, Kindness, Sleep and Wake Up, each with age-appropriate tools (ages 5 and under, 6-8 and 9-12.)

Academics:

 The Homework app allows students to upload their class schedule, know at a glance if it’s an A or B Day, a timeline of the day’s classes, a graph of the student’s workload for the next seven days, and quick options to contact teachers and instructors. Brainpop was created by a doctor as a tool to help explain difficult concepts to his young patients through games, movies, and engaging content. It’s a great resource for homework help and teaching complex subjects. Alternatively, Kahn Academy offers free, online instruction in everything from English grammar and algebra to art history and microeconomics.

Tracey Dowdy is a freelance writer based just outside Washington DC. After years working for non-profits and charities, she now freelances, edits and researches on subjects ranging from family and education to history and trends in technology. Follow Tracey on Twitter.

 

 

 

 

Making New Year’s Resolutions You’ll Keep

By Tracey Dowdy

If you’re like many of your fellow Americans, along with the frantic pace of the holidays comes the quiet determination to turn over a new leaf and start fresh in January. Forty percent of Americans make New Year’s resolutions ranging from losing weight, getting fit, being more fiscally responsible, and quitting smoking.

Of those forty percent, research has found that only 75% keep the resolution past the first week, 71% past two weeks, and after one month, there’s only 64% hanging in there. By the time June rolls around, only 46% are still plugging away. That’s less than half of the original group. Ultimately, only 8% of those who make resolutions actually achieve them.

So what’s the secret? How do some manage to hang in there while others fade out so quickly? The answer can be found in science.  Dr. Michal Ann Strahilevitz says that most resolutions fall into one of four categories – self-care, giving more, accomplishing more, and enjoying more. “If you want to maximize both your short-term joy and your long-term sense of having a meaningful life, you want to make sure to move your life in a direction where you have a nice balance of all four categories,” she says.

The key, Dr. Strahilvitz says, is to be clear about your objectives. “For all of the above categories, make sure to translate your goals into concrete, measurable objectives, so you know when you have hit them and when you have not. Make sure your objectives are realistic.”

So how do we do that? Strahilivitz offers these practical suggestions for turning resolutions into measurable achievement.

Start by writing down your resolution. Dr. Gail Matthews, at the Dominican University in California, found that you are 42% more likely to achieve your goals if you write them down. The simple act of writing down what you’d like to achieve pushes you to think strategically, ask yourself questions, and to come up with a plan to make it happen.

Be specific. Vague resolutions like “I’d like to lose weight,” or I’d like to get out of debt are weak, and likely to fail – quickly. By being specific – “I’d like to lose 50 lbs. this year,” or “I’m going to pay off my VISA bill by June,” are more likely to succeed. Why? Because you’ve clearly defined your objective and can easily discern when you’re getting off-track.

Be accountable. It’s easy to blow off your goals and give up if you’re the only one in on the plan. Get an accountability partner and check in with them regularly. Accountability is highly motivational.

Link your goals to positive motivation and happiness. Strahilivitz suggests writing down three reasons you want to achieve your goal, identify the positive emotions that will follow, and share it with someone you trust.

Likewise, she suggests identifying three negatives that will result if you fail to follow through, both tangibly and emotionally. “I’ll still be in debt, struggling financially, and won’t be able to travel as I’d like. This will leave me frustrated, discouraged, and embarrassed.

Reward yourself along the way. Don’t wait until the goal is met to celebrate – celebrate milestones along the way. Go get a massage when you’ve lost those first ten pounds, splurge on a fancy coffee when you’ve made that first big dent in your debt, or simply take an afternoon to yourself.

Conversely, Strahilavitz suggests adding a little pain to failure. Personally, she committed to working out six days a week, and if she failed, she had to donate $100 to a charity whose values are contrary to her own. It’s been highly effective in keeping her motivated, and so far, she’s avoided donating.

Finally, if you falter, get back up and try again. Success is less about getting it right the first time and more about a series of do-overs. Never let a setback define or derail you.

Tracey Dowdy is a freelance writer based just outside Washington DC. After years working for non-profits and charities, she now freelances, edits and researches on subjects ranging from family and education to history and trends in technology. Follow Tracey on Twitter.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ending Your Year on a Positive Note

By Tracey Dowdy

Are you ready to put 2018 to bed or are you dreading all the unfinished business turning the calendar means? However, the year treated you, there are ways to wrap up 2018 on a positive note and allow you to look forward to 2019 with hope and fresh determination.

Start by reflecting on the past twelve months, even if the “minuses” outnumber the “plusses,” you did have some successes and victories. Write down the things that made you happy – goals achieved, time spent with loved ones, or even a promotion at work – and reflect on how each made you feel. Research has found that a positive outlook not only boosts mental health, but it has an impact on your body as well.

Now that you’ve got a list of tangible goodness, make sure that going forward you celebrate those positive milestones with those you love. This will reinforce the positive memory and ensure that it carries affirming emotional energy when you look back on the event.

While you’re at it, take the time to acknowledge those who have supported and walked beside you over the past year. It doesn’t need to be a flowery, Byron-esque poem, but a simple Christmas card or text message saying you are grateful for their friendship will lift your spirits and brighten their day. Who doesn’t want to hear they’ve been an encouragement in the midst of the holiday madness?

Sit down and take stock of your to-do list. What absolutely has to be done by 12/31/18 and what can wait. Prioritizing your calendar will allow you to take a breath – mentally and physically. Sorting the urgent from the important and the irritating is an immediate mood-booster.

Adopt the One Minute Rule. Sometimes, when we look at our to-do list, it’s all we can do not to throw the list in a fire and go back to bed. But, adopting the one-minute rule breaks all those somehow, sometimes, little chores like putting away a basket of laundry or putting the breakfast dishes into the dishwasher manageable. A minute is such a tiny increment of time, but you can accomplish more in that minute than you think. Plus, when the task is complete, you have an immediate sense of satisfaction as well as having reduced some clutter. That’s what I call a win.

Years ago, someone told me each of us has A-listers and B-listers in our circle. A-listers are those who are invested in a mutually beneficial relationship – they’re there to support you, encourage you, and pick you up when you fall. B-listers are only interested in what you can do for them. Going into the new year, be mindful of the relationships that empower and encourage you, and those that drain you. I’m not suggesting you cut people out of your life, but don’t spend unnecessary time or emotional energy on those who aren’t deserving. Set healthy emotional boundaries and live within them.

So no matter how 2018 treated you, you have the power to end it well. Here’s to 2019 being your best year yet!

Tracey Dowdy is a freelance writer based just outside Washington DC. After years working for non-profits and charities, she now freelances, edits and researches on subjects ranging from family and education to history and trends in technology. Follow Tracey on Twitter.