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Cyberbullying
Sadly, thanks to the Internet and other modern technologies, kids have powerful
new
ways to make each other miserable. For kids who may not have fully developed the
sense
of morality and empathy that grownups are supposed to have (but don't always!),
the
Internet can make meanness far too tempting. On the Internet, you're not
standing in
front of the person you're hurting. You can do it from a distance - perhaps along with a
group of kids egging each other on to ever-higher levels of rottenness.
Cyberbullying takes all too many forms. Kids send each other nasty messages...
insult
each other on social networking sites, blogs, and public web sites... post embarrassing
or
revealing pictures of other kids... forward emails that were intended to be private...
spread
rumors and accusations... impersonate their victims and start fights with others...
you
name it, it's happened. The question is: what can you as a parent do to
prevent it, stop it,
or limit the damage it does to your child. Here are our recommendations:
Give your child practical guidelines for how to deal with conflicts and cyberbullying
online. For example, teach the "Stop, Block, and Tell" method:
- Stop what you're doing and take a deep breath: do not
answer or get into an argument online
- Block the person who's harassing you - or example, using
your IM service's blocking feature
- Tell a parent or another adult you trust
Make sure your child never, ever shares a password or other personal identification
that could allow a cyberbully to impersonate them.
Google your kids. If someone's posting derogatory information about your
child on a
public web site, you need to know about it - and the Google search engine
may well
find it.
If you find your child is being cyberbullied, support your child. Don't
blame them for
being cyberbullied, and don't ignore it as harmless. Let them know you
know it hurts.
But try not to overreact: your child may be afraid of involving you because he
or she is afraid you'll blow a gasket and make things even worse.
Do tell your child's school guidance counselor, so he or she can
keep an eye on your
child's emotional state and interactions with fellow students. There's
only so much a
school can do about "free speech" happening outside the school's
walls. But you can
and should expect your child's school to educate children on cyberbullying
and stand
strongly against it wherever they do have authority: for instance, on
the grounds, and
on their own computers.
If the cyberbullying involves threats of physical violence, an immediate and strong
reaction is needed: tell your local police. Bring printouts of the threats in
question.
But be aware that these printouts aren't by themselves sufficient proof
for the police
to charge a crime, if that becomes necessary. The police will need to carefully
capture
their own evidence and trace its source - and that needs to be done quickly,
before the
evidence is routinely deleted. Not all police departments know how to track cyber-harassers. If they need help, a volunteer organization, WiredSafety.org,
may be
available to assist at no charge.
Don't forget that for every cyberbullied child, there's also a cyberbully - and most
cyberbullies don't see themselves that way. They think what they're
doing is
harmless. Make sure your child knows what cyberbullying is, and that you won't
tolerate them doing it. Treating others with respect should be the first
ground rule for
the privilege of having Internet access, IM accounts, a MySpace
page, email, or a
cellphone.
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